Planting Helleborus in Gardens Remembering Babies

18 Feb


Helleborus niger or Christmas Rose is a beautiful plant for memory gardens honoring a baby that has died early in pregnancy or other tragic loss. Sympathy giftsare sometimes difficult to fathom for a child that is supposed to be here. If you know the grieving parents would love an outdoor plant to honor their deceased child, purchase a Helleborus plant for their garden.


Helleborus was used in our son’s memory garden and did quite well in the hot, scorching sun. They are the creamy blooms flanking the entrance. Typically, they favor an area with part shade and protected from wind, yielding a  long lasting cut flower. Helleborus come in creme or mauve colors and can be pressed and dried for scrapbooks. They stay nice and compact and the foliage is dark and evergreen. This is considered a very coarse plant which will add nice contrast next to plants of different textures like daffodils. This is one of my absolute favorite plants to use in my landscape design projects.

Helleborus can grow in zones 4-9 and they bloom when there is little color within the landscape, making it a very good choice for winter interest. Other plants offering early blooms are crocus, jasmine nudiflorum, star magnolia, flowering apricot, camellia japonica and daffodils.

If you know your baby’s gender and would like to create a Memory Garden, visit Gardens for Angels  and Pregnancy Loss Gardens Blooming White to help you on your gardening journey honoring your precious angel. A tipsheet is also available providing helpful information on how to start your babies’ garden. If your sweet little baby died early in pregnancy visit, Zodiac Signs for Pregnancy Loss to give ideas on elements for your gardens and scrapbooks. These ideas will also provide you with more tangible keepsakes to work into your journals, shadowboxes and other places remembering your baby.


The nodding flowers are so gorgeous, the small size of the plant and how beautiful it looks in the winter are all positive. If you know of anyone who grows these plants, ask if you could have one or two because they transplant well.


Above is a past landscape design project where I used Helleborus as an edging plant. When this pretty plant is in prime bloom the display is spectacular brightening this rather dark space.

If you have any questions about memory gardens or scrapbooking for your children in heaven, please feel free to inquire.

Peace Love and Hugs from Above



Posted by on February 18, 2008 in Memory Garden Design


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6 responses to “Planting Helleborus in Gardens Remembering Babies

  1. Donna Pless

    July 21, 2009 at 4:14 pm

    another beautiful plant for a memorial garden would be Asclepias Incarnata (Swamp Milkweed). This plant is the only host plant of the Monarch butterfly. The butterfly lays her eggs on the plant, which then becomes sustenance for growing baby caterpillars. The caterpillar turns into a chrysalis and is born a beautiful butterfly. A lovely way to remember your precious one amongst the angels.

  2. Diana Gardner-Williams

    December 31, 2009 at 12:37 pm

    Hi Donna,

    The Milkweed variety which grows in our Zone 7(NC) is Asclepias tuberosa or the common name Butterfly Weed.
    It is on the invasive side, so just be careful where it is planted.

    It has a beautiful mid-summer bloom

    Happy Planting!

  3. Donna P

    December 31, 2009 at 1:05 pm

    The Incarnata is a perrenial in our area (Zone 7), and does not have an invasive root system. It is a lovely plant that blooms throughout the summer into the fall months. We grow hundreds of these each year, with much success and many butterflies!

  4. Cathy Williams

    January 17, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    I have not lost a child but I just lost my mother 5 months ago and I am planing on making a garden in memorial garden for her because she loved flowers so much . I was able to take a few of her flowers before we sold her places, looking for ideas on what to plant. I took black eye susans , rose brush, daisys , I just got the plant helleborus its in a 6 inch pot. I took the money from the trailer and made a sunroom that I put my house plants in and have windows all around so when i do the bed I will beable to see her and know she would be happy.


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